Value as Love・ Love and Marriage5

We regard an attitude according to the difference to others as a gifted person of the same profession to myself with a difference of age, for example same old and younger. Of course eve if we don't criminate anyone with the difference of age, mentally its difference is not so small, you know. Love is the matter that we naturally love the partner and we can hold a feeling of an overlap with favor to love.
It could be adopted to the case of an affections matter between male and female, for instance an attitude in marriage life, couldn't it?
Namely love value consists in a jugment toward mind of the each different cases spouse choice or merely friends choice, because we need an overlap toward a marriage life in love and favor, but we needn't an overlap toward a friends' choice. Because we judge a truth that an overlap in love and favor is everyday matter in our social livings. Therefore we want an overlap at least a spouse choice. But in the case to choose normal friends or colleagues around us, we take a
jugment making fairness as the top priority. Sole exception is in the marriage lives when we discover the spouse character we've never read before marriage.
Consequently, in the case without an overlap in love and favor, we're apt to admit a partner with reasonable jugment. But necessarily the attitude to respect a partner holds a character to cease a respectful mind if a partner was precipitated into a situation which we cannot respect him or her. A decisive feeling surely exist in our minds. Thereby in a mind of an overlap-realized in respect and favor toward partners, we would be disappointed to the failure to continue a respectful actions in a moral or a conscience by a partners rather than not overlapped case.
More to love, more to be a favor, Less to be disappointed or be angry in reversal effect.
Then necessarily love value has a trend to be biased to favorite feeling, but ideally an overlap is the best for us, I think. And at the beginning days of loving emotion, we have more favor, but after a long process, we are aware of the importance of evaluation to partners because we've got to be aware of their faults or shortcomings. Namely we know a compromise to others as a partner. That example of the best one is marriage partner as a spouse.